BDSMonday - BDSM 101 by Laci Green

It's BDSMonday!

Sorry about last week everyone...I was sick and I had to work :( But I'm feeling much better now!

Anyway, today I have a video about BDSM 101 by Laci Green. Enjoy!

(NSFW and there is some FSOG-bashing)

Free Read - Belladonna

Sooooo...exciting news in my world *wiggles*

My very first published story, Belladonna, has been re-released...and now it's free!

It's M/M BDSM and it's...very kinky.

BDSMonday - Fetishes Video

It's BDSMonday!

Today I have a video for you. It's an episode of the Midwest Teen Sex Show, which is a hilarious and informative series to teach young people about all kinds of sex and sexuality. I highly recommend it. (I didn't want to put "Teen Sex Show" in the title lest I give the wrong impression...)

It's a very silly video, and definitely not a how-to guide to playing, but I hope you enjoy it!

Sit back, relax, and may I present the Midwest Teen Sex Show - Fetishes!

BDSMonday - Public Play

It's BDSMonday!

Today's topic is playing in public. First, let me be clear--for me, there are only two 'rules' for BDSM. Consent, obviously, is the first one. But the second is, don't freak out the vanilla people. Just like you (probably) don't want to know about strangers' sex lives, they (probably) don't want to know about yours!

That being said, there are a surprising number of ways to play in public or outside your home.

Some easy ones include:

- wearing a buttplug, though I wouldn't recommend doing this for more than a few hours at a time. Not only will your butt probably get sore, it's probably not good to have something in there for too long!

- if you are a penis-having person and you're into CBT or chastity play, there are many, MANY discreet objects you can wear out and about. Again, I wouldn't leave those on for an extended period, at least without learning your body's limits first

- having bondage underneath your clothes

- if I've played recently, I love feeling the bruises and other marks throughout the day, either by touching them on purpose or just finding them stimulated as I go about my business

Then there are sneakier ways that you can do right under unsuspecting noses and they probably won't notice.  I don't consider myself an exhibitionist, but I do enjoy carrying my BDSM relationship across as many aspects of my life as I can, and there is a special thrill at performing a kinky task that no one would ever guess was happening.

I really like it when my Sir orders for me at restaurants, especially if we haven't discussed it ahead of time. I usually get her drinks when we're at family members' houses, or refill her drink if we're at a restaurant and there's a pitcher or teapot at our table.

Some of them are more situational--we painted the exterior of our house this summer. One of the spots could only be reached by standing on the roof. I wanted to be tied off at least a little, so we got to do outdoor, fully public bondage! :D

Or, while we were raking, I was bent over the bag of leaves to squish the air out of it (does anyone else do this?) with my ass in the air, and she gave me a little swat with the rake. I don't think anyone walking past would have looked twice, but we had a 'tee hee' moment.

I would love to hear your ideas, experiences and fantasies when it comes to playing in public!

BDSMonday - Sleepy Thoughts

It's BDSMonday!

Today's topic...well, it requires a little explanation.






Okay, um...I've been reading a lot of Star Wars books lately. Like, a lot. And one night, while I was in that falling-asleep-silly-brain state I thought, "Darth Vader would be really good at breath play..."

Look at that! I'm sure he has excellent control!

There's even a video (though I find the lack of apostrophe disturbing. And someone has a lot of time on their hands and it isn't me). 

And then of course that made me think, "I bet the Emperor would be really good at electrical play." 

I have a point, really, I do! Okay, maybe not a point, but close enough! Do you guys have any vanilla-references-that-could-be-turned-kinky to add to my weird list? 

BDSMonday - Wax Play

It’s BDSMonday!

Today’s topic is wax play.

First, I have to put on my little safety hat (okay I’ve used that a couple of times now and I think it deserves a picture. Suggestions for how my safety hat should look?) There is a lot of information about wax play on the internet, so I’m not going into too much detail, but here are a few key points and tips I’ve found useful.

The most important thing to remember when playing with wax is temperature. There are a couple of things that effect temperature: type of wax, height, and colour. The darker or more intense the colour, the hotter the wax is going to feel on someone’s skin. It’s probably best to avoid metallic wax entirely, because it’s going to have a really high melting point, aaaaaand it’s likely to contain some things you don’t really want to put on your skin.

A-Z Challenge: N is for Night Out

I'll have been married five years in July (July 14th if we're being specific. We're big history nerds, okay?), but Night Out was my first story with an established relationship. I was really intrigued by the theme of the anthology--basically, take a message you might find on a candy heart and run with it--but it took me quite a while to flesh that out into a story:

Liam comes home from work to find only one conversation heart left in the candy bowl. His lover, Jason, produces the other candies and tells him that the heart left in the bowl is a clue. It says, “Bite Me”. The only other clue is that they’re going out for dinner. Normally Jason is terrible at keeping secrets, and he almost always cooks for them. Liam has no idea what Jason has planned.

Genres: M/M, BDSM, Contemporary

(Part of Torquere Press' Conversation Hearts anthology)

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BDSMonday!

It's BDSMonday!

Today's question: What are some of your favourite pervertibles? (This is gonna be a short post for now because I'm on the computer at work. Which sort of goes with the subject, no?)

I recently got one of my favouritesagain--rose stems with the thorns left on. Yummy. You've gotta be quick and tell the florist not to cut them off (and ignore any weird looks you may get). The stems don't hurt much more than, say, a crop or cane, but I must warn you that occasionally the Jaws of Life thorns will get stuck in your skin (still attached to the stem, luckily!) and you'll feel them being pulled out.

Edit:

More, now that I'm at home.

Some other pervertibles I enjoy are signal paddles and wooden spoons that my wife and I have painted and made fancy.

What about you? :D

BDSMonday Archive - December 16 2013

It’s BDSMonday!

Today’s question:

What are some of your favourite things to use for sensory play?
Some of my favourites are:
- pennies: if you put them on someone who’s blindfolded, the pennies feel like drops of water
- wax: after spanking, it feels like acid! Wonderful, wonderful acid :)
- ice: it has so many uses, but a really neat one is to put an ice cube in a cupping…cup…and the person being cupped can’t feel the ice until the cup comes off. It’s weird!