BDSMonday - Photoset

It's BDSMonday! (Again, sorry about last week...work was ri-DIC-ulous!)

Today I have a photoset for you, showing examples of real-life kinksters doing their kinky thing. There's a lot more than leather and latex here!

(Link is NSFW)

BDSMonday - Aftercare Comic

It's BDSMonday!

Today I have a comic about aftercare from Jessi's Art Blog. It's very adorable--and also NSFW.

Have a great week everyone!

BDSMonday - Fetishes Video

It's BDSMonday!

Today I have a video for you. It's an episode of the Midwest Teen Sex Show, which is a hilarious and informative series to teach young people about all kinds of sex and sexuality. I highly recommend it. (I didn't want to put "Teen Sex Show" in the title lest I give the wrong impression...)

It's a very silly video, and definitely not a how-to guide to playing, but I hope you enjoy it!

Sit back, relax, and may I present the Midwest Teen Sex Show - Fetishes!

Boot Porn

I get regular emails from Mr. S Leather, and this one pulled a double-whammy.

This is their 

Red Stitch 12" Jobmaster

I love the contrast the red stitching makes against the black leather, and how high the boot goes. And the shape. The whole thing is just yummy as hell. (Warning: the link has some rather NSFW pictures!)

And then...

I was literally reduced to incoherent sounds at the sight of this. It doesn't help that harness boots are a major turn on for me!

They're Mr. S' 

Double Strap 16" Boss Boots

(Feel free to look at this link at work. Unless your boner will give you away. But the pictures are just boots and motorcycles, not naked bits.)

The things I want to do to those boots...with my Sir wearing them...*drool*

BDSMonday - Impact Play Infographic

It's BDSMonday!

Today I have an infographic about impact play from DDlgdoodles.

As I'm sure I've said before, I love infographics. Especially kinky ones. So, enjoy!

Hot Damn!

Seriously, this is so far up my alley that it comes out the other side.

From Tumblr

Speculums

"A speculum (Latin for "mirror") (plural specula or speculums) is a medical tool for investigating body cavities, with a form dependent on the body cavity for which it is designed.

Vaginal and anal specula are also sometimes used as sex toys, but this is uncommon."

Speculums feel great. A toy I love that I don't play with often enough. It's not something I would want to do every day, but it's definitely wonderful from time to time. A great toy for any medical scene (and everyone needs more of those), or just for shits and giggles--I guarantee both.

Something I really like about speculums is that they can be used to stretch an orifice, which I enjoy the feeling and thought of, but you have more control over the expansion than, say, an inflatable toy. Inflatable toys go from size to size in big jumps, and sometimes the interval is too much, so it hurts. Speculums, however, can be adjusted in very small, controlled increments.

Our speculum came like this, with three prongs. Unless you are into serious anal pain, I recommend taking the third prong off, leaving only the top two! Otherwise, the third prong sticks out a bit, and loves to catch your delicate anal flesh. It's easy to do: you just loosen the knob shown in the picture (the bottom one), remove the third prong, and put the knob back.

Another thing I love about speculums (once you've removed the third prong as mentioned above) is that there's a tempting space between the prongs where flesh is revealed. Just the right size for a finger. This feels amazing.

Sounding!

I came across a post about sounding over on S. L. Danielson's blog (though the actual post is by Dakota Trace).

This post is NSFW. You have been warned.

A-Z Challenge: V is for Veil

(I'm totally cheating--this is an edited version of a post from an old blog...but this month has been crazy and I'm leaving for a trip tomorrow.)

Veils. 

On men.

Sexy. (And, for the purpose of this post, I am only talking about veils on men. This blog is not about religion or politics).

I read somewhere that there is no single facial feature that allows for universal
facial recognition. People have to be able to see the whole face in order to recognize someone. I think that's why some people react so strongly to veils of any kind, because so much of human relations are through the face. When they're upset by a veil, they're really thinking, "Ahhhhh!!!! I can't see his faaaaaace!!!"







Look at this guy! I can't see his whole face! He could have warts. He could have scars. He could be the most beautiful man on earth and I'll never know!

Veils add mystery to interaction, and most people don't like mystery unless they're specifically looking for it.

For me, that mystery is part of a veil's charm. Reading someone's emotions becomes limited to the eyes. Eyes are very expressive, but most Westerners are used to getting non-verbal cues from other parts of the face as well.




Veils keep a part of you hidden from the world. I don't just mean actual, physical veils, of course. They can hide a good thing, something you want to keep to yourself or those you're intimate with (or bad hair day. I'm just saying...), or it could be something you don't want anyone to see because you're ashamed of it, or it's a secret, or having it out for everyone to see would leave you too raw and vulnerable to function.






This blog doesn't have nearly enough naked men yet, so here!

I love this picture. The veil doesn't hide anything, it only draws the viewer's attention and makes the whole thing more sensual. You can't see the model's face, so he is effectively veiled.

I'm sure part of the romance of veils is, for me, the purely sensual side of them. Yes, there's the mystery, but there's also the feeling of soft, gauzy material on your skin, on one of the most sensitive parts of your body (the face). You can kiss through a veil, a la Victor Hugo, and it's a totally different experience. Even the familiar becomes new, exotic, erotic. I like walking around town with a scarf over my face and just my eyes showing during the winter. I'm invisible, or rather unidentifiable. I can be anyone and no one. People can only see my clothes and the colour of my eyes and skin.