BDSMonday - BDSM 101 by Laci Green

It's BDSMonday!

Sorry about last week everyone...I was sick and I had to work :( But I'm feeling much better now!

Anyway, today I have a video about BDSM 101 by Laci Green. Enjoy!

(NSFW and there is some FSOG-bashing)

BDSMonday - Aftercare Comic

It's BDSMonday!

Today I have a comic about aftercare from Jessi's Art Blog. It's very adorable--and also NSFW.

Have a great week everyone!

Free Read - Belladonna

Sooooo...exciting news in my world *wiggles*

My very first published story, Belladonna, has been re-released...and now it's free!

It's M/M BDSM and it's...very kinky.

BDSMonday - Fetishes Video

It's BDSMonday!

Today I have a video for you. It's an episode of the Midwest Teen Sex Show, which is a hilarious and informative series to teach young people about all kinds of sex and sexuality. I highly recommend it. (I didn't want to put "Teen Sex Show" in the title lest I give the wrong impression...)

It's a very silly video, and definitely not a how-to guide to playing, but I hope you enjoy it!

Sit back, relax, and may I present the Midwest Teen Sex Show - Fetishes!

BDSMonday - Public Play

It's BDSMonday!

Today's topic is playing in public. First, let me be clear--for me, there are only two 'rules' for BDSM. Consent, obviously, is the first one. But the second is, don't freak out the vanilla people. Just like you (probably) don't want to know about strangers' sex lives, they (probably) don't want to know about yours!

That being said, there are a surprising number of ways to play in public or outside your home.

Some easy ones include:

- wearing a buttplug, though I wouldn't recommend doing this for more than a few hours at a time. Not only will your butt probably get sore, it's probably not good to have something in there for too long!

- if you are a penis-having person and you're into CBT or chastity play, there are many, MANY discreet objects you can wear out and about. Again, I wouldn't leave those on for an extended period, at least without learning your body's limits first

- having bondage underneath your clothes

- if I've played recently, I love feeling the bruises and other marks throughout the day, either by touching them on purpose or just finding them stimulated as I go about my business

Then there are sneakier ways that you can do right under unsuspecting noses and they probably won't notice.  I don't consider myself an exhibitionist, but I do enjoy carrying my BDSM relationship across as many aspects of my life as I can, and there is a special thrill at performing a kinky task that no one would ever guess was happening.

I really like it when my Sir orders for me at restaurants, especially if we haven't discussed it ahead of time. I usually get her drinks when we're at family members' houses, or refill her drink if we're at a restaurant and there's a pitcher or teapot at our table.

Some of them are more situational--we painted the exterior of our house this summer. One of the spots could only be reached by standing on the roof. I wanted to be tied off at least a little, so we got to do outdoor, fully public bondage! :D

Or, while we were raking, I was bent over the bag of leaves to squish the air out of it (does anyone else do this?) with my ass in the air, and she gave me a little swat with the rake. I don't think anyone walking past would have looked twice, but we had a 'tee hee' moment.

I would love to hear your ideas, experiences and fantasies when it comes to playing in public!

BDSMonday - Word Association

It's BDSMonday! (And it's almost 9pm...today sort of didn't happen, so this week is going to be quick and easy. And it sort of ties into last week's topic).

What's the first thing that comes into your mind for the following words?

BDSM
Kink(y)
Bondage
Discipline
Dominance
Submission
Sadism
Masochism

Vanilla people are always encouraged to join in, but this week especially!

BDSMonday - Special Guest M. Strange Talks Sadism!

It's BDSMonday, and today I'm thrilled to introduce my guest...who also happens to be my wife/Sir.

Today she's sharing a post about her early experiences trying to figure out her role in BDSM.

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"When I first started BDSM with my wife, I struggled with my identity as a top for quite a while.

At first, I really struggled with the idea of a relationship where I had more power than my partner. It took me some time to realize that though she submitted to me, though she was a masochist, I had her full consent and our relationship was an equal one. Whether we were in a scene or just living our lives, we both put in equal amounts of effort towards our relationship. This is honestly why I think our relationship is so strong; because we both put it at the top of our priorities.

Even though I panicked the first time she tried to submit to me and we broke up for a week or so, I’ve taken to the role of her Sir quite happily. Now my role as a top means a lot to me and I don’t think we’d be the same without it.

Still, once we started getting into the BDSM community, I realized that a lot of the dominants there weren’t what I was. We thought of our relationships in very different ways and I didn’t always understand where they were coming from.  I played with the words I used to identify myself for a while and finally settled on sadist, which I’m still happy with. More than I enjoy control, I enjoy spanking and biting and rough play.

Though SM is my favourite kind of play, I know that my partner enjoys more of the mental D/s side of BDSM. At first this side of BDSM was really overwhelming for me. My wife helped me come up with easy D/s games to get me into it, and soon enough it was a natural part of our lives. Even now, some of the rules and rituals we came up with in the beginning have stuck through. At this point, they’re so engrained that we don’t even really notice that we’re doing them. It’s just a nice easy reminder of our relationship.

Not to say we don’t do more complicated D/s scenes, but they’re still a bit of a struggle for me. I still consider myself more of a sadist than anything, but I will always be her Sir."

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Feel free to ask one or both of us questions, as always. And if you have an idea for BDSMonday, I'd love to hear it!

Is There A Word For This?

Here's something that really amuses me:

My shins are often bruised--most of my non-writing work is pretty hands-on and physical, and I have very fair skin. 

Whenever I come home with an injury, no matter how small, my wife always makes a (pleasantly) big fuss over it. 

And then she'll bite my thighs, leaving bigger, deeper bruises than the ones I had...and we gloat over those. (She does nurse them if they need it, of course, and it's a part of play we both really enjoy.)

Does this happen to anyone else? Is there a word for this type of situation? I wouldn't quite call it ironic...