BDSMonday - Munches

It's BDSMon...day late. Sorry to do this two weeks in a row guys! I'll try to have my shit together for next week...we'll see how that goes!

Anyway, today's topic is munches. What they are, what you can (and probably cannot) expect from them, a few general rules (each group that hosts munches might have their own rules), and how to find one.

First of all, what is a munch? I suppose munches need some description nowadays, since they have become rare and shy of the Big People, as they call us. They are (or were) a little people, about half our height, and smaller than the bearded dwarves. Munches have no beards.

Oops, sorry, that's hobbits!

A munch is an informal gathering of kinky people, usually in a public place like a restaurant or coffee shop.

It's a great place to meet others and make connections in your local kinky community, or in another city if you're traveling. A munch is not a play party. Unless it's being held in a private place with no vanilla people, it's generally not a good idea to play or even wear fetish gear to a munch, unless it's something you would ordinarily wear or do in public. A munch isn't usually a good place to hook up or find a play partner to go home with.

I think I've covered most of the commonsense type rules, but they basically all come down to: Don't Freak Out The Normals. The other people in the restaurant or wherever the munch is being held don't want to hear about the size of your strap on, how many times a week your Daddy spanks you, or anything like that!

If you have questions about a munch in your area, make sure to contact the hosts! Most are friendly and helpful. If you're not sure if there are any specific rules, or you just want to 'know' someone before heading out to your first munch, definitely contact the host.

There are a few ways to find munches. If your local kinky group has their own website, you can just Google "City X kinky munches" or something like that. Fetlife is an excellent munch-finding resource. If there are any good, kink-friendly adult store in your city, they might be able to point you in the right direction.

If you're feeling apprehensive about going to your first munch--you're not alone. My wife and I came very close to hiding in the bathroom instead of going to our first one...but I'm really glad we did! If possible, go with a friend, whether a kinky friend or at least one who won't run screaming.